Marla Rosner’s company, Instill Leadership, a management consultant, provides leadership development training and coaching. Marla now weaves the topic of digital natives into the workplace, and educates others how to avoid digital communication blunders, which includes blending technology and life skills.
Ms. Rosner is acutely aware and passionate about the profound influences technology has on our children, how it affects the family dynamics, and the development of social intelligence that may escape our children.
Body language is distinctive and the non-verbal expressions are hindered and not present with the current use of texting. We are becoming impaired, and are not even aware it is happening. The absence of face-to-face body language, replaced by texting, may have an impact on the social development of our children, suggests Marla.
Marla Rosner recommends Author, Paul Ekman “Emotions Revealed: Recognizing Faces and Feelings to Improve Communication & Emotional Life”. Paul also consults for the TV series, “Lie to Me”. Facial emotions (non-verbal signals) have evolved throughout man’s evolution as communications, which is absent from texting.
Develop social intelligence; work with your kids in understanding body language, especially due to the absence of face-to-face communication, and the use of texting.
Marla is developing the web site, Beyond Netiquette, an online workshop for parents to develop a structure around their children’s digital activities at home to support fun, educational, and broadening digital involvement, and reduce the risk of negative, anti-social behavior.
Kids need guidance from parents in structuring digital skills with life skills. Parents need to incorporate core values and civility as an integral part of technology use.
The digital divide that separates children and parents needs shrinking; parents can no longer stand in the shadows afraid to challenge technology. Parents need to join kids in “their world”: this means parents need to learn the lingo and to some extent play in the same arena that their kids do.
Solicit your child’s help in setting up a Face book or other social media account. Several positive occurrences will happen, for example, you will open a dialogue and begin talking with your child about social media. Find out what is happening and what is not. Moreover, you will have the opportunity to discover what your child knows about safety issues (privacy settings); ask them to show you what they do to keep their personal information safe. More importantly, you will have time to share your wisdom, world experiences, and apply the two as they relate to a safe and secure digital life.
Be an example: Parents also need to model digital time management themselves (no phones at dinner, time off computers to spend with the family), social etiquette in using technology.
Parents need to help their kids build other activities into their schedules with family and friends to offset the lure of the computer. Take 25 (A campaign started by The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, NCMEC) minutes a day or per week, but do take the time to talk with your child about what is going on in your child’s everyday digital life.
Parents need to establish rules at home about when, where, and how digital devices and computers are used and enforce those rules. The digital age hit us like a Tsunami, and before we knew it we were swimming in information and technology, and there is no turning back. We need to climb into our digital skiffs and help navigate our families, using best practices, to assure a safe and secure digital life.
The salt & pepper study in civility…What is the rationale in passing both the salt and pepper when someone asks for just one of them…Anticipating and accommodating the needs of others. How are we anticipating the needs of others today in the digital age and texting?
We covered a lot more, so be sure to listen to the full interview available below:
Marla also provides a free download of “Digital House Rules Worksheet” to help get you started.
What are your thoughts regarding the following question?
At what age do you think it is appropriate for a child to have a cell phone, which typically is a smart phone?
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- Learning From Digital Natives: 6 Surprising Benefits (psychologytoday.com)
- Study: Young kids better with tech than ‘life skills’ (news.cnet.com)
- Christina Gagnier: Are the Kids All Right? The “Digital Natives” (huffingtonpost.com)
- Being a “Digital Klutz” Is Good for Your Family (psychologytoday.com)